“My biggest regret is that I didn’t spend more time planning a personal touch to my reception,” my friend Michelle told me recently. She got married in Minneapolis almost 10 years ago, when she was 25. Her wedding was lovely, and she did a great job of involving lots of good friends in the ceremony and the reception. But in retrospect, she wishes she and her husband had addressed their guests themselves and shared parts of their story. “My groom was not one to give speeches, but I could have done it.” Or, she thought, she might have put together a slideshow of the progression of their courtship or childhood pictures of each of them.
I have been to many weddings where the couple asked their friends to toast and roast them, but never took the microphone themselves. I always leave those weddings feeling like something was missing.